Loveville, MD – Anyone who has ever experienced a breakup knows how deep it can hurt. The agonizing feeling that you might be able to ever love again. The illusion that you might not ever find another great person like the one you lost. But the worst is the raw brutal ache in your heart.
Most folks out there have been through a devastating breakup, the type that feels like life will never feel the same again. But not to worry, because you can survive it.
1. It’s Not the End of The World
Unless your partner was going to donate to you a kidney and you’re about to die without it, it’s not the end of your world. It’s just the end of a chapter of your life, but your book goes on without him/her. It’s normal to over-dramatize the situation and feel like life will never be the same again. Well…this is right and wrong. Because life won’t be the same without that person, but that doesn’t mean it will be worse.
2. Feel your emotions
Don’t overlook your emotions. Let yourself grieve. You’ve lost someone dear to you, and it’s only normal to feel sadness. You’re allowed to feel sad. Don’t bury your emotions, because they will come back to haunt you if you don’t deal with them now.
3. Exercise
Exercise is a natural antidepressant. It will help bring your happy brain chemicals up and help you feel better while toning your body and help you lose those extra pounds. It can feel excruciatingly hard to get off the bed and get going, but the staying in bed will just make it harder for you to get back to your life.
4. Accept it
Accepting the end of a relationship can be brutal. Because deep in your mind and heart you’re hoping that is just a short break and that you guys will get back together. Accept that your relationship broke. If you do get back together, chances are that the relationship won’t go back to how it was, something in it will have changed, so accept that the relationship you had is over.
5. Live for today
Don’t worry about how you’ll survive tomorrow or next Christmas. Think about today. Just about getting through today. Quitting an ex can be like quitting cigarettes, you must do it one day at a time. Just be patient.
6. Remove external reminders
Of course, you’ll never forget your partner, and on the early stages of a breakup it he’s/she’s probably all that you think about. It’s normal. But you can also help yourself by avoiding tender reminders of what it once was. Delete photos and letters. Avoid stalking him on social media and delete her/his number from your phone. It’s a new start.
7. Do what you want
No! You don’t have to force yourself to go out and catch up with friends, you don’t have to go shopping, you don’t have to get wasted. Do what makes you feel better but don’t neglect your body and mind. Remember that anything that you do has consequences, so keep it safe, but keep it fun.